How can you help someone who has been sexually assaulted?

The most important point to remember is that the rape or assault is not your friend's fault. Sometimes the phrases "I believe you" and "It wasn't your fault" are the most powerful phrases you can say to help your friend. Other ways you can help your friend include:

• Listen and be available.
  
  
• Don't judge or blame your friend for the rape or assault.
  
  
• Offer shelter and safety.
  
  
• Encourage action. For example, encourage your friend to seek medical attention, but do not force them to do so.
  
  
• Let your friend decide what actions to take. Making choices helps your friend to regain control lost during the assault.
  
  
• Do not attempt to seek revenge against the rapist.
  
  
• Be gentle, sensitive, and respectful of the survivor's wishes for closeness or affection. Ask your friend, if it is okay to touch or hug her/him.
  
  
• Consult with those who can help you. For example, contact the SACC Team, the University Counseling Center, or the DC Rape Crisis Center for advice and guidance.
  
  
• Recognize that recovery can take a long time and continue to support your friend.