Negotiatiating Safer Sex

Healty relationships require negotiation and communication throughout to ensure that  the needs and concerns of both partners are expressed, including the topic of sexual intimacy. Safer sex negotiation can occur before, during, or following sex. 

Yikes! How do I talk to my partner about THAT?!

We know it can be difficult to communicate concerns or questions with your partner, but it's for your own good. To help make things a bit easier, we've offered a few tips below that you can use. If you have any questions, don't hesitate to contact one of the Peer Educators!

TIP #1
Before you even open your mouth, decide how you want to bring up the subject. For instance, you can use humor, express concern, show him/her an article, book, or picture to open communication.

TIP #2
Bring up the subject when you both will feel comfortable talking about it, as in when you are alone, and ensure that you have enough time to fully discuss the issue (don't bring it up 5 minutes before you have to run to class!)

TIP #3
Decide beforehand what you are going to say, and how you are going to say it. You know how you feel about these issues and you want to convey those messages clearly.

TIP #4
Think about what issues you both agree on and what you need to talk about further. For instance, you both know you want to be sexually intimate but you haven't discussed in what way (eg. vaginal, oral, or anal sex).

TIP #5
Visualize or roll play with a friend. Think about all of the possible outcomes of this confrontation.

TIP #6
Remeber YOUR HEALTH COMES FIRST! Never agree to anything that you don't want to do!

Like we said before, we'd love to offer assistance. If you have questions or concerns just Ask a Peer Educator.